Using the Language of Kindness


Have you ever wondered what the secret is to raising kind kids? Spoiler alert: It starts with you, parents! According to Dr. Thomas Lickona, "Kindness is a teachable virtue, but you have to make it a high priority."

In his book Raising Kind Kids, Lickona looks to come alongside parents as they inspire kindness in the lives of their children. Lickona encourages parents to "use the language of kindness" in the home. This type of language helps convey kindness as an important family value and an expectation. 

Here are some examples: 

  • Would you be kind enough to help your sister pick up the family room?
  • That was a kind thing to do.
  • Thank you for your kindness.
  • Can you use kinder words to say that?
  • How can you settle this in a kind and peaceful way?

In addition to learning the language of kindness, regularly brainstorm ways to practice kindness as a family. Words are a powerful motivator and are foundational in developing moral, virtuous children.

​​​​​​​Interested in learning how to hold family meetings, tackle family problems or improve relational dynamics in your home? Check out the book How to Raise Kind Kids today!